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Christians need to be aware of, and avoid, sexual sins, as they can serve to separate us from God.
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This writing is designed for adults only, and is not meant for children or teenagers, without the approval of their parents. The topic of sex is of an adult nature, and we as Christians need to seek wisdom from God about the proper timing before presenting this information to the children God has entrusted us with. For this reason, I strongly discourage anyone who is not of the legal adult age (age of majority) in their state from reading this writing without the express knowledge and permission of their parents or guardians. I do however recommend that parents wishing to talk to their children about the wrong uses of sex go through this material with their children at the appropriate age, when their parents feel their children are ready to be taught these topics contained in this writing. No pictures or graphic details are contained in this writing.
Importance Of This Writing
Before reading this writing further, I highly recommend that you first read several of my other writings, as they will lay a proper foundation for this writing, as I will not be repeating many of the principles taught in the other writings here. Please read, in no particular order, Distractions, Radiance Requires Relinquishment, Relationships, and Sins, at a minimum, although many of my other writings would likely be helpful and beneficial. This writing was designed to supplement my writing Sins, and that writing should definitely be read both prior to, and also in conjunction with, this Sexual Sins writing.
You might wonder why a Christian minister would write about this topic, and the answer is that the Spirit of God led me to do this. I would not, in my natural mind, even think of broaching this subject, unless I knew that God through His Spirit definitely wanted this written. In fact, I was extremely cautious before I began writing this, and will only write exactly what I believe God is telling me to write to you, no more and no less.
This topic is often shunned in the Christian community and churches at large, but is much needed to help people get free from all kinds of bondage that sexual related sins bring to those engulfed in its clutches.
Jesus desires that we be free from all sin. "If the Son therefore shall make you free, ye shall be free indeed." John 8:36. "The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly." John 10:10. "Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light." Matthew 11:29-30.
If I have learned anything in life, it is that relationships matter to people and to God. Relationships require that we be vulnerable, that we trust one another, and that we treat others properly at all times. Our society breaks down when people mistreat or take advantage of one another. God wants to be treated properly also.
We have a innate, built-in, desire to love, and be loved. I believe God designed us to have this need for love and companionship with a spouse, and also with Him. Many people get lonely if they do not have someone they can love and who loves them back. There is also much confusion today about the word 'love.'
Since God is not the author of confusion, the enemy of our souls must be behind the confusion concerning the true meaning of love. "For God is not the author of confusion, but of peace..." 1 Corinthians 14:33.
Love has been written, talked and sung about for thousands of years. Everywhere we go we hear about love. It is celebrated and greatly to be desired. For without love, people become lonely and miserable. Love is essential to having a happy life, and is greatly to be desired. We should seek after true love.
Having officiated at approximately 700 wedding ceremonies, I can tell you that true love is a wonderful thing. Unfortunately, our schools don't usually give classes on love. Any poet or artist will likely tell you that love can not be quantified, as it is hard to pin down or describe properly. People have different ways of describing and defining what love really is. To many, it is a mystical vapor that changes shape and will not let people fully grab hold of it. God wants us to understand true love and comprehend it.
What Love Is
God is love (1 John 4:8). "For in him we live, and move, and have our being..." (Acts 17:28). Since God is love, we should radiate with His love also. Apart from Him we are nothing (John 15:5). It stands to reason that since God is love, and apart from Him we can do nothing, that if we have not love, God is not moving with us, nor are we moving properly with God. We should produce much fruit of love.
"I am the vine, ye are the branches: He that abideth in me, and I in him, the same bringeth forth much fruit: for without me ye can do nothing." John 15:5.
"Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God; and every one that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God. He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love. In this was manifested the love of God toward us, because that God sent his only begotten Son into the world, that we might live through him. Herein is love, not that we loved God, but that he loved us, and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins. Beloved, if God so loved us, we ought also to love one another. No man hath seen God at any time. If we love one another, God dwelleth in us, and his love is perfected in us." 1 John 4:7-12.
In our quest to discover the true meaning of love, we must also examine 1 Corinthians Chapter 13, the so-called Love chapter of the Bible. There we find many interesting attributes of love. In the King James Version, the word charity is used to mean love.
"Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things." 1 Corinthians 13:4-7.
Love doesn't... Envy, Have Pride, Lift Itself Up, Rejoice In Immorality Or Unfairness, Think Evil, Get Easily Provoked, Allow Selfishness. Love is... Patient, Kind, Properly Behaved, Celebrates Truth, Bears All Things, Believes All Things, Hopes All Things, and Endures All Things.
Love puts a good outlook on life, and causes one to have hope and purpose, and want to add to others. The opposite of love is hate, malice, anger, destruction, envy, and a desire to steal and take from others.
Love Is Commanded
"And one of the scribes came, and having heard them reasoning together, and perceiving that he had answered them well, asked him, Which is the first commandment of all? And Jesus answered him, The first of all the commandments is, Hear, O Israel; The Lord our God is one Lord: And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind, and with all thy strength: this is the first commandment. And the second is like, namely this, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. There is none other commandment greater than these." Mark 12:28-31.
"Master, which is the great commandment in the law? Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets." Matthew 22:36-40.
Giving Demonstrates One's Love
"For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved. He that believeth on him is not condemned: but he that believeth not is condemned already, because he hath not believed in the name of the only begotten Son of God." John 3:16-18.
"But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. Much more then, being now justified by his blood, we shall be saved from wrath through him." Romans 5:8-9.
God so loved that He gave to the world His Son. It is through our acts of giving and kindness that we manifest God's love through us. "Be ye therefore followers of God, as dear children; And walk in love, as Christ also hath loved us, and hath given himself for us an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweetsmelling savour." Ephesians 5:1-2.
"But this I say, He which soweth sparingly shall reap also sparingly; and he which soweth bountifully shall reap also bountifully. Every man according as he purposeth in his heart, so let him give; not grudgingly, or of necessity: for God loveth a cheerful giver. And God is able to make all grace abound toward you; that ye, always having all sufficiency in all things, may abound to every good work:" 2 Corinthians 9:6-8.
Misconceptions About Love
Sex and love are not the same. If one is not married to another, then any kind of sexual act or behavior is inappropriate and is sin in God's eyes. Even lust is described by Jesus as the same as committing adultery.
Satan desires to entice us to sin, or become separated from God, by using lust, and sexual favors outside of the marriage bed, to lead us into sin. Beware of being led astray from God by any sexual sins.
"Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge." Hebrews 13:4. Sex is to be limited to the marriage bed, where it is pure and undefiled in God's eyes.
"Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot? God forbid. What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh. But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit. Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's." 1 Corinthians 6:15-20.
"Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?" 2 Corinthians 6:14.
We are definitely not to have any kind of romantic relationship or marriage to an unbeliever in Christ. That leads to an unequally yoked relationship. The Bible also gives instructions if one of the marriage partners becomes a believer after two unbelievers had chosen to get married (see 1 Corinthians 7:13-16).
We need to be careful with whom we get romantically involved. Marriage is to be pure and holy before the Lord. The acts of living together, fornication, and adultery are not to be options for any Christian! These things only lead to destruction and separation from God. "Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, Envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God." Galatians 5:19-21.
"For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication: That every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honour;" 1 Thessalonians 4:3-4.
"Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God. And such were some of you: but ye are washed, but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our God." 1 Corinthians 6:9-11.
"I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, it is good for them if they abide even as I. But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn. And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife. But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away. And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy. But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace." 1 Corinthians 7:8-15.
God is clear about His position on homosexuality and lesbianism. They are strictly prohibited by God, and to be regarded as sinful behaviors. We as Christians should have nothing to do with this kind of behavior. We are not to accept or condone the behavior of those involved in these sinful lifestyles, as Scripture is clear in this regard, but we need to pray for their deliverance. "Woe unto them that call evil good, and good evil; that put darkness for light, and light for darkness; that put bitter for sweet, and sweet for bitter!" Isaiah 5:20.
In society today, the mere speaking out against homosexual and other perverse behavior (in God's eyes) is often labeled as hate. We, as Christians, should not hate any person, but we should flee from, and avoid, all sinful behaviors. God is clear in this regard. For God is not mocked, for what you sow you shall also reap.
"Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting." Galatians 6:7-8.
"For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature: And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet. And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient; Being filled with all unrighteousness, fornication, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, debate, deceit, malignity; whisperers, Backbiters, haters of God, despiteful, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents, Without understanding, covenantbreakers, without natural affection, implacable, unmerciful: Who knowing the judgment of God, that they which commit such things are worthy of death, not only do the same, but have pleasure in them that do them." Romans 1:26-32.
Also covered by unnatural affection would be child molesters and pedophiles, who are enticed into sin. They are slaves to demonic taskmasters, who drive them to unnatural lusts of all kinds of perversions of the flesh.
What Can We Do?
We are to flee all manner of sins, lusts, and corruption. "Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body." 1 Corinthians 6:18. "Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you." James 4:7.Pray and ask God to help you escape from the bonds of sin. It is only through Christ's blood that we can receive redemption from the penalty of our sins. Receive deliverance, in the Name of Jesus Christ, from everything that would bind you, or try to control your mind and your flesh. Read God's Word with the help of the precious Holy Spirit. "For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened." Matthew 7:8, Luke 11:10.